First Impressions: My Big Fat Fabulous Life

Yeah. It’s been a long (bleeping) time since I have updated my blog. So long that I’m not even going to count back how far. Do I have a good excuse? Well… does binge watching Netflix and naps count as a good excuse? Okay, maybe not. But I got lazy with writing. And by “lazy” I mean I couldn’t figure out what to write or how to put my thoughts down.

Soooo…. anyways… Here we are again. Happy 2015, y’all!

Okay, at this very moment I am watching a show called My Big Fat Fabulous Life on TLC. Have you heard about it? I just discovered it today. It’s about a gal named Whitney who was once a slender girl who loved to dance. But due to a condition called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), she gained over 200 pounds. With a fresh outlook on life, she is trying to find her way in this world, just like the rest of us.

Check out this video of Whitney discussing how dance helped her turn her life around.

I’ve only watched a bit of this show, but I absolutely love Whitney’s spirit! I can identify a bit with Whitney. I too was diagnosed with PCOS in my mid-20s. While I never gained 200 pounds, I have found it difficult to lose weight, a common side effect of this disease. Before you get all, “Well, just eat less, exercise more. Eat healthy foods. Blah, blah, blah!”, let me drop some knowledge on ya: With PCOS, you can do all the “right things” regarding weight loss and the scale still won’t budge. Often you can do all the “right things” and the scale will still go up. This is frustrating as hell!

Dude- before I go off on a total PCOS tangent, letΒ me get back to the fabulousness of Whitney.

Again, I absolutely love her. I love that she is out there enjoying life and not hiding or crying under the covers like some people expect fat girls to do. I love that she shows her vulnerabilities and struggles on the show. I love that she turns to dance, her first love and passion, to express herself, exercise, and help inspire others. Hats off to you Whitney!

Visit TLC’s site to learn more about My Big Fat Fabulous Life.

XOXO,

roqberry

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I Just Got Accepted… By Me

Louise Hay Quote

I’ve said it before and I don’t know why it is so acceptable for us- especially women- to be so down on ourselves. We beat ourselves up for things that we celebrate in others. Even if someone compliments us, we over-analyze or try to read way too much into someone’s kind words.

Why do we do that?

We each have insecurities. That is perfectly normal. We see some imperfections- real or imagined- and see those imperfections made perfect in someone else and ask, Why can’t I be like that?

Here’s an answer to that question: What if you weren’t meant to be made like that? Have you considered that? Okay, here is a better answer: If you were meant to be a different way, than you would be that way.

Each of us has been given special gifts and talents and unique qualities that make us, well, us. When you think about and accept the fact that there will never, ever be another person like you, it’s both humbling and remarkable.

The next time you start to say something bad about yourself, say something positive instead. 

XOXO,

roqberry

Obsession: All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor

I have always been a big advocate for having a positive body image whether you are a size 2 or 22, hourglass or pear shaped. So when I came across the video for Meghan Trainor’s song, All About That Bass, I immediately fell in love!

This video combines a catchy beat with a really positive message (“Yeah, it’s pretty clear I ain’t no size 2, but I can shake it, shake it like I’m supposed to do.”) And let’s face it- if you are going to have a song stuck in your head, why not let it be a song that reinforces how awesome you really are!

Meghan is totally adorable and I love her voice. This is her first video and I can’t wait to hear more of her music. I also love the behind the scenes footage of the music video, which you can see below:

Remember my lovelies:
Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.

XOXO,

roqberry

The Weight You Really Need To Lose in 2014

Losing weight is a common new year resolution. Can I suggest another one to add? Losing the “self-hate”.

There is a lot of that going on for girls and women of all ages. Every day women say “I hate my thighs,” or “I’m a pig”, or “I’ll be happy if I was a size 2.” The truth is that happiness isn’t found on the scale or in a particular dress size. It is found within, by accepting and loving YOU.

By the way moms- your daughters can hear you when you are self-hating, so set a good example for your little ones.

For all of the different types of haters out there, the most dangerous hater of all is ourselves. So stop the hate! You are seriously an awesome, fabulous, gorgeous person! Trust me, you are. If you need to be reminded of this, let me know. I’ll be happy to do it. So rock on with your bad self! Strut your stuff and be the bad mamma jamma you are destined to be. Peace out.

XOXO,

roqberry

Girls Don’t Play Trumpet

Earlier today my mother shared a conversation she had with another lady. The lady mentioned that her granddaughter, who currently plays clarinet in band, told her director that she wanted to learn trumpet and asked if she could make the switch. The director said no, that “Girls don’t play trumpet.”

Oh really? I was at first infuriated but then felt bad for this young girl. She may never know how great she could be on the trumpet. She may have become first chair, last chair or the greatest trumpet player EVER, but it is likely she will never know. And sadly neither will we.

This situation also makes me grateful for having family, friends and teachers who never, ever told me I could not do something because of my gender (or race for that matter). I know I’m blessed with this because too many girls (and women) are told that they can not do something simply because it- whatever “it” is- is something that girls simply do not do.

Greatness knows no gender. Telling a girl she can’t do something because of her gender runs the risk of depriving her of realizing her greatness. And it can also deprive the world of knowing that greatness. Without any support, her dreams and talent can fade away. So keep an eye and ear out for girls who say that they can’t do something because they are girls. Support them and help them discover how great they can really be!