Joy Comes In The Morning

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Psalm 30:5 says, “Weeping may linger for the night, but joy comes with the morning.” 

“Morning” does not necessarily mean in the a.m. It can be when you wake up to the realization that God loves you and will never, ever abandon you. When you wake up to the fact that God will always take care of your needs and loves you more than you can ever comprehend.

Time to wake up!

XOXO,

roqberry

Not That Kind of Black Girl

I was having a conversation with one of my friends who I have known for a few years and she mentioned a music artist. Conversation went a bit like this:

Friend: Hey, have you heard Artist’s new song?

Me: Who?

Friend: You know who I’m talking about!

Me: Ummm… no I don’t. Who is Artist? And why do you think I know who that is?

Friend: You know…because you’re black.

Okay, before you raise any pitchforks, let me clarify that my friend is black as well. But she is one of those people, black or white or whatever, that automatically assumes I am familiar with every black artist that comes on the scene.

I have these types of conversations once in a while and it does frustrate me. What frustrates me the most is when someone puts off a vibe that I am not “black enough” or will lose my “black card” because I do not do any of the following:

  • Watch BET
  • Watch Tyler Perry anything
  • Listen to R&B
  • Listen to rap (which for the record I do- but mostly pre-2000s rap)
  • Watch the latest black film that has been released
  • Live in a black neighborhood
  • Graduate from a black university
  • Have only black friends
  • Exclusively date black men
  • Go to a black church
  • Talk with a black dialect

Now, this doesn’t frustrate me enough to go off on any of my friends, although I will tease those I’m close to that if it isn’t a song by Foo Fighters or Patty Griffin, don’t ask me if I’ve heard it. But I do find it insulting that not enough people recognize that the black community, like all communities, is diverse. For the record, I tend to:

  • Watch Sundance Channel or IFC
  • Watch Wes Anderson or Coen Brothers anything
  • Listen to rock music (hence my love for Foo Fighters)
  • Listen to singer/songwriter or alt-country music (hence my affection for Patty Griffin)
  • Watch independent films
  • Live in a racially diverse neighborhood
  • Graduated from a predominantly white liberal arts university
  • Have mostly white friends
  • Date men of all races
  • Go to a racially diverse church with a white senior pastor and black associate pastor
  • Been told I talk with a northern/midwest/Californian accent (considering I’m from Tennessee, this always amuses me!)

My point is that there is no one way for a person to behave if they are black just like there is no one way for someone to behave if they are any other race. C’mon- how insulting would it be for people to assume that all women watch Lifetime Channel or listened only to Sarah McLachlan… although I do happen to love Sarah and have been to two Lilith Fairs in the past, but you know what I mean, right? There is diversity within all races. There is no “If you are _____ then you must act/think/do _____”.

I think that’s it for my soapbox. And on that note, I leave you one of my favorite Foo Fighters songs, The Pretender. That may be ironic that I am picking a song with the title “The Pretender”. But I just seriously (bleepin’) love this song!

XOXO,

roqberry

Get Your Sephora Fix In A Flash

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You know you want it.

Now you can get it faster for a full year.

Sephora is offering 2-day shipping for a year for only $10. Okay- so basically pay $10 once and you can get all of your Sephora goodies in two days. For a full year.

That is a pretty awesome deal! And even more awesomer: there will be no minimum purchase.

Visit Sephora for details and to sign up. Happy shopping!

XOXO,

roqberry

‘Twas The Week Before Thanksgiving

Okay, I can’t believe I have gone this long to write a blog post. No real excuse, other than being busy.

Anywho, it’s the week before Thanksgiving and I am kinda not ready for the holidays. The end of the year makes me reflect on everything I have accomplished this year as well as things not yet achieved.

Have you ever had that feeling at the end of the year and you’re like, Okay. Next year is going to be different! It’s going to be super fabulous and everything will fall into place. It will be the best year EVER! And then at the end of the next year you’re like, What the hell happened? I totally didn’t accomplished even half of what I wanted to do. This year was pretty much the same as last year! Yeah, that is how I feel this year. Well, granted I didn’t have to search for a job this year. I have made some amazing accomplishments at work.

Um…maybe this year is a bit different. This may not be the “best year ever”, but it is definitely better than last.

Hey, I’ll take a little victory over no victory at all. Celebrate good times, come on!

XOXO,

roqberry

It’s Finally Autumn: Get Ready For a New Season in Life

Welcome Autumn

This week we are celebrating the return of autumn. Hooray! A return of cooler temps, changing leaves, and pumpkin flavored everything! This change of season reminds me that just as the weather changes seasons, our lives go through seasons too.

I have had many life seasons as I’m sure you have too. Seasons of joy and sorrow, happiness and sadness, success and overwhelming obstacles. But with each season I have been very glad that God has been by my side, guiding my steps during rough seasons and smooth ones too.

A couple of years ago I went through a really rough season with an ailing parent and my own job loss. Even when things were getting bad, I always kept my faith. There were many times when I said, “God, I don’t know where this is leading me, but I know that you are already there and also here with me to guide me as I move forward.” I meant it then and I still feel that way. I am in a good season season now, and I praise God for that, but I know that God will also be with me during future rough seasons.

Now, someone may say, “C’mon, if you have faith you shouldn’t think that you’ll be in rough seasons ever again.” It’s a myth that faith blocks out all bad seasons. Even Jesus said that we will have rough times in life. But faith means that I have something solid to lean on when those bad things happen. And bad things will happen. There are two days I don’t look forward to: the days when I lose both of my parents. Those will be bad days and I will definitely be leaning on my faith when those days come. I’ve had times when I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills. I can celebrate in seasons of sorrow because I know that God will guide me through it. I’m not being flippant about that. I take comfort in knowing that God, who helped me back then, will help me today, tomorrow, and every day forevermore.

Happy Autumn everyone!

XOXO,

roqberry

Trailer: Drive Hard Starring John Cusack and Thomas Jane

It’s hard to beat a good action movie. Or an action comedy. Especially if there are car chases involved. It looks like we’ll get all three in the upcoming film Drive Hard starring Thomas Jane and John Cusack which arrives in theaters October 3 but it is available On Demand now. In this film, Jane plays a former race car driver who is now a driving instructor and Cusack plays a bank robber who forces Jane to be his getaway driver.

Wait a second…Have you seen the movie Drive starring Ryan Gosling? In that film Gosling plays a former race car driver who is now a stunt car driver who also happens to moonlight as a getaway driver for thieves. If you haven’t seen that film, STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND WATCH THAT FILM!! Here is the trailer for Drive

And then we also had the movie Drive Angry starring Nicolas Cage about a man seeking vengeance against the men who killed his daughter and kidnapped his granddaughter. 

So Drive, Drive Angry, and now Drive Hard. May I suggest Hollywood make a movie called Drive Slow? Feel free to write your own jokes for what the film can be about. Maybe a morning commute gone horribly wrong. Hmmmm… actually that could work.

That film can be followed by the sequel Drive Slow 2: No Turn Signal.

XOXO,

roqberry